When a friend or family member loses a child, you may not know the best way to express sympathy and provide support. Parents are likely to feel the loss intensely, and as much as you may want to, there's no way to "fix" things for them or take away the pain they are experiencing. However, there are plenty of ways to support your loved one, both before and after the funeral or memorial service. Here's some helpful advice.

How to Support a Grieving Parent

1. Be Present

Some friends assume it's best to keep their distance in the aftermath, as the parents might already have enough support from their immediate family and don't need others "in the way" while they grieve. However, since the family is often grieving as well, they might be unable to be a reliable source of comfort and support for your loved one. 

For that reason, all you can do is show up and be ready to take care of anything the parents need. From supervising other children and managing household tasks to making the arrangements for a memorial service, there are many types of practical support friends can provide.

2. Listen 

Grieving parents often need to express their emotions without receiving advice or a pep talk. Many times, just sitting quietly with them and listening is all they need. 

Avoid the temptation to show empathy by telling them "I know how you feel," or sharing other people's experiences. Everyone grieves differently, and parents need to work through their emotions in their own way. 

3. Share Memories

Sometimes, people are afraid to bring up the deceased child out of concern about upsetting the parents. However, mentioning them is a reminder that the child touched your life and that of others around them.

If you aren't uncomfortable doing so, don't be afraid to talk about the child and share memories even after the memorial service. It's also considerate to reach out to your friend on important dates, such as their child's birthday.

Turn to the professionals at Arpp, Root & Carter Funeral Home in Germantown, OH, for compassionate assistance planning a memorial service that honors your loved one. They've served families for more than 75 years, providing funeral planning support and cremation and burial services. Call (937) 855-2011 to speak to a funeral director, or visit them online for additional grief resources.