Discussing funeral arrangements with parents can be an intimidating prospect. However, if your parents are reaching old age, now is the time to talk about planning a funeral so that you can properly honor their wishes. Use this actionable guide to thoughtfully and lovingly discuss this important topic with your parents. 

How Should You Broach the Subject?

Starting the conversation about funeral planning is often the hardest step. Some people are comfortable discussing the future and are willing to face the reality of passing away. Conversely, many people struggle with the realization that their health is declining. Although they realize that death is inevitable, they still don't want to acknowledge it. 

How you approach the conversation depends heavily on your parents' personalities and preferences. You might be able to tell them directly that you have questions about their final wishes so that you can make arrangements for their funerals in the future. Alternatively, you might need to broach the topic lightly by asking about their favorite family traditions or cultural customs. The topic could come up naturally after you've attended a funeral for someone else, as well. 

No matter how you bring the topic up, be mindful of your parents' thoughts and feelings throughout the discussion. If they change the subject or indicate that they don't want to talk about planning a funeral, don't force the issue. 

What Kinds of Questions Should You Ask? 

If your parents are receptive to discussing funeral planning, you'll want to prepare a list of questions that you can ask. Inquire about their preferences regarding: 

• A burial or cremation
• The format of their funeral services
• Who they would like to preside or speak at the services
• What music, readings, or other materials they'd like to incorporate
• Any special requests following their deaths.

Be sure to record the conversation and keep your notes in a safe place for reference later. If your parents want to amend any of their requests in the future, don't forget to notate these changes in your notes.

If you are planning a funeral for a loved one, Eackles-Spencer & Norton Funeral Home in Harpers Ferry, WV can help. Their compassionate and friendly team can assist you with pre-planning and funeral or cremation arrangements. This West Virginia-licensed funeral home serves residents in Charles Town, WV, and beyond. See their services online or request more information by calling (304) 724-6500.