Planning for the fall and winter holidays should be an exciting time for children, but separated and divorced parents with child custody disputes can cast a shadow over these times of togetherness. Here are ways to come to an understanding with your former or soon-to-be former spouse so that your children enjoy the holiday season.

How to Figure Out Child Custody During the Holidays

1. Consider your children first.

You might not get along with your child’s other parent, but put your feelings aside in the spirit of the season. Look at child custody from your children’s point of view. They love both of you. If your ex wants to spend extra time with the kids during the holidays, be thankful and try to cooperate. Discuss and agree on a schedule in advance that’s not disruptive to your kids, and focus on enjoying your free time as well as the time you spend with them.

2. Try splitting the holidays annually.

Try having your ex spend Thanksgiving this year with the kids while you have them for Christmas. Next year, reverse the arrangement. Plan and agree on as much in advance as possible, especially if travel arrangements need to be made.

3. Ask your kids what they want.

When your kids are old enough, you might let them decide which holiday they want to spend with you and which they want to spend with their other parent. If you and your former spouse can’t agree on holiday child custody terms, contact your divorce lawyer about negotiation or mediation. 

Handling child custody issues during the holidays can work well if parents cooperate with a giving spirit. If you need help negotiating with your ex or soon-to-be ex, turn to Bates Law Firm PLLC. Based in Wadesboro, NC, these skilled and compassionate divorce lawyers serve separated and divorced parents throughout North Carolina’s Anson, Richmond, Stanly, and Union counties. They can help you with mediation or negotiation so your children can enjoy the holiday season as they should. To schedule a consultation, visit their website or call (704) 694-0195 today.