If you've been asked to deliver a eulogy, you’ll have opportunities to honor the person you've lost and express your feelings at the funeral service. Many people can be overwhelmed when preparing a eulogy, especially if they aren't used to speaking in public. Here are a few tips to help the process go smoothly. 

How to Write a Funeral Speech

1. Write Down Your Memories

List as many stories and memories as you can think of about your loved one. Don't worry about which ones you want to share; just collect as many as possible. Note any patterns you notice, like their character traits or any shared themes. For example, you may discover that your loved one was always helping others or appreciating nature. 

2. Pick a Message

There are two main types of themes often included in a eulogy. One is a recounting of the most important moments in your loved one's life. The other is an illustration of their best qualities. You can choose one path or combine them. 

3. Choose Examples

Once you have your theme, go back to your list of stories and choose memories that fit the theme. Aim for about a three- to five-minute eulogy; generally, this means including three to five memories, plus an introduction and conclusion.

4. Practice with an Audience

Once you have a draft of your eulogy, practice delivering it to a friend. This will help in three ways: it will help you spot any problems with the wording, give you a chance to time yourself, and offer you a chance to smooth out any sentences you want to change.

For help arranging a meaningful funeral service, contact Cornelius, Dodd & Connell Inc. Funeral Home in Middletown, NY. Serving the Orange County community for over 100 years, this family-owned and -operated funeral home is committed to being there for you and your family. To begin the funeral planning process, call (845) 343-2142 or reach out online to speak to a funeral service director.