No one likes to think about the day when their parents will pass, but there will come a time when you need to plan a funeral for them. Funeral pre-planning will ensure that you’re prepared to make decisions that are in line with their wishes. Having this hard conversation before their passing will make funeral arrangements less stressful, allowing you to focus on mourning and honoring their lives and legacy.

How to How to Bring Up the Topic

It’s likely that your parents have already given some thought to their final wishes, and they may already have a plan in place. While you might initially feel awkward broaching the topic, your parents will likely be grateful that you brought it up. 

Sometimes, the opportunity to have this conversation comes up naturally. If you or your parents attend a funeral, for example, use the opportunity to discuss what they might want for theirs. If you are starting to think about your own funeral arrangements, mention it to them and use it as a springboard to talk about their desires. 

Acknowledge that it’s not always the most enjoyable topic, but that you’d like to know their wishes so you can be sure they are carried out. If they haven’t thought about it, or they are reluctant to talk, give them some space. They may need a bit of time to come to terms with the idea of planning funeral arrangements ahead of time. 

Important Questions to Ask

Once you’ve broken the ice and your parents are open to the conversation, focus on finding out key information about their wishes. This could include their thoughts on burial versus cremation and whether they want a funeral, memorial, or celebration of life service. You might also ask them about any funeral arrangements they already have in place, such as securing a burial plot or casket.

Discuss their requests for music, flowers, readings, or traditions, and ask if there are any organizations that mourners can support in lieu of flowers. Having these tasks planned in advance can give your parents peace of mind knowing that their final wishes will be acknowledged, while also reducing your stress during such a challenging time.

For assistance with funeral arrangements for yourself or your parents, turn to the professionals at Brater-Winter Funeral Home in Cincinnati, OH. From cremation to memorial services, their compassionate team provides a wide range of pre-planning services to help you design the perfect memorial or funeral that adheres to the deceased’s wishes. These professionals will help you through every step of the planning process. For more information about their services, call (513) 941-1940 or visit them online.