Although stipulations in your will are meant to safeguard your children's future, a conflict could arise regarding how you choose to distribute assets and other decisions. That's why you should consult with an attorney while estate planning. By approaching decisions with an objective perspective, a will attorney can tell you why arguments arise among adult children, as outlined here, and offer guidance to curb family squabbles.

What Causes Sibling Arguments Over a Parent's Will?

When deciding on each child's inheritance, making decisions that appear to show favoritism can lead to hurt feelings and resentment. One child, for example, could get upset if their sibling receives your primary residence or vacation home, sole ownership of a business, items that have sentimental value to everyone in the family, or a larger portion of your savings. If a child assumes you've earmarked specific assets for them, they could also be mad at their siblings and other beneficiaries if they find out by reading the will that you had other plans. 

While estate planning, you might be tempted to name one child executor of your will. In this position, they are granted authority to close your bank accounts, use estate money to pay debts, and tend to your other affairs. Other children might be upset about the level of power over your estate their sibling has.      

How to Keep the Peace

Communicating your intentions with your children can help curb arguments. Although you might have various beneficiaries, strive to make your children's monetary portion of the inheritance and high-priced items as equal as possible. If you plan to give one child specific items with sentimental value, let your other children know how you reached this decision. You should also ask your children for their input to find out what possessions are particularly meaningful to them, as you might be surprised by the answers. 

When it comes to who will manage your affairs, you can name children co-executors of the will. This way, they share the responsibilities. If you're not sure whether the kids can make decisions together, your attorney or another third-party representative can take on the job.  

To create a will and prepare for the future, contact the Law Office of Debra A. Brown. Located in Torrington, CT, the attorney specializes in providing estate planning services to Litchfield County residents. For over 35 years, the counselor has been making sure clients' living wills, powers of attorney, health care directives, and additional arrangements adhere to state laws, so they are honored by Connecticut courts. Take a look at the lawyer's additional practice areas online, and call (860) 496-7717 for a consultation.