Losing a job is an upsetting and nerve-wracking life challenge that can cause a great deal of stress. However, in these uncertain times, when U.S. unemployment rates have reached record heights, it’s important to remember that you are not alone. Below are some suggestions to help you get through this transitional period.

How to Cope With Losing Your Job

1. Be Kind to Yourself

It’s easy to take a lay off personally and scold yourself for not doing your best. But in most cases, there’s nothing you could have done to prevent it. Replaying the scene in your head or wondering what you could have done differently will only make it harder for you to move on. Go easy on yourself and remember that this is an unfortunate life challenge over which you have no control.

2. Reframe Your Situation

Instead of dwelling on what you have lost, focus on the new things your lay off allows you to do. You can spend time looking for jobs that you’ll really like, as well as reach out to friends and former colleagues who may have connections. Perhaps you can even take a class or two. Keep your schedule busy, and appreciate the time you have to explore new opportunities and hobbies. 

3. Seek Out Support

New York Life ChallengesIsolating yourself during a tough life challenge can take a toll on your mental health. Reach out to friends and family, as it’s likely more than a few have lost a job before and can empathize with how you are feeling. You may also want to make an appointment with a therapist or life coach who can provide you with support and encouragement, as well as help you map out a plan for finding a new job.

4. Review Your Finances

While looking at your finances can feel scary after a job loss, it can also be comforting to come up with a new budget. There are probably a number of aspects you can forgo for the time being, and you’ll feel better knowing you have a plan for living within your means. Remember that this is only temporary. Once you find a new job, you can revisit your budget and make adjustments.


If you’ve recently lost your job and need support, contact Audrey Berger, Ph.D., of Turning Point Life Coaching in Rochester, NY. As a psychologist and life coach for more than four decades, she’s helped clients cope with a wide range of painful life challenges, including layoffs and financial hardships. She offers sessions in-person, online, and over-the-phone, so you can get help in the manner that is most convenient for you. Visit her website to learn more or call (585) 292-0095 to schedule an appointment.