Surrogacy can be a wonderful way to grow your family. If you're just starting to consider this process, you may be worried by the seeming complexity. Educating yourself about the process and how surrogates are chosen can help alleviate any nerves you may have. Once you have your baby in your arms, the effort will be well worth it. Get started with these frequently asked questions.

Questions About Using a Surrogate, Answered

What are the benefits of using a surrogate?

Surrogacy can be great for same-sex couples or those struggling with infertility. The process can alleviate the uncertainties and stress that can come with trying to conceive. A reputable provider can help match you with a healthy surrogate and advise on financial, insurance, and legal details.

How are surrogates selected?

Surrogates must meet predefined criteria in terms of age, BMI, and lifestyle—for example, they shouldn't smoke or use drugs. Most surrogates will have a history of healthy pregnancies without complications. Surrogates may also undergo additional screening for example ensuring they don't have a criminal record.

What are the different types of surrogacy?

In the case of gestational surrogacy, a woman carries a child with who she has no genetic relationship with. It's conceived using an egg that is not hers using in vitro fertilization and donor sperm and eggs. In traditional surrogacy, a woman carries a child that's conceived with her own egg and that she is thus biologically related to. Make sure to check the laws concerning this in that state where you live, and where your future surrogate lives as well.  A lawyer who is experienced in third party reproduction can guide you through this process.

What requirements must the parents meet?

Intended parents should be capable of providing for a child financially, physically, and emotionally. People from all walks of life can become parents via surrogacy, including same-sex couples and single people. The important thing is that they can provide a caring home for a child.

Do the parents remain in contact with the surrogate during pregnancy?

Every surrogacy relationship is different. Some intended parents maintain close contact with their surrogates, accompanying them on medical appointments and attending the birth. Others choose not to have such a close relationship. It's largely up to you how you shape the relationship.

If you're considering surrogacy, the Diamond Institute for Infertility & Menopause of Millburn, NJ, can help. These specialists have more than 50 years of experience helping families grow. Doctors Matan Yemini and Ndidimaka Onwubalili take a compassionate approach to their work. They will answer your questions and guide you through the process confidently. Visit their website or call (973) 761-5600 for an appointment.