Kids typically start to understand the idea of sharing once they reach preschool age between three and four years old. But it's not uncommon for a child to take their time by actually engaging in sharing actions. Fortunately, there are things you can do to help encourage this behavior, three of which are discussed below.

How to Teach a Child to Share

1. Model Sharing Behavior

Preschool-age children are extremely perceptive and learn a lot through simple observation. This means that they often learn and imitate the behaviors that are modeled for them. To get them to share, be a good sharer yourself. Let them see you share items with them or with others. 

If someone shares something with you in front of the child, bring attention to the action by saying, "Thank you for sharing," or a similar phrase. These small steps can go a long way in cultivating a child's own sharing abilities.

2. Normalize Sharing

It's common for toddlers to think of everything they see as "mine," as they are still coming to understand the concept of possession. But once a child reaches preschool age, they start to expand their worldview and move beyond this stage, making it an ideal time to introduce and normalize sharing. 

Talk to them about what it means to share and how important this concept is in the larger world. Give them examples of sharing in action. And make it personal; for instance, let them know that it is a normal and kind gesture to share toys with their friend when the two are on a playdate together.

3. Don't Push Them to Share Everything

There are naturally going to be some things a child doesn't want to share, like a favorite stuffed animal or new toy. And that's perfectly fine; after all, no one shares everything they own. But use this as a learning opportunity by talking to the child about the importance of having boundaries and having things that only belong to you. You might want to have them select a special item or two to set aside before a playdate, then have them choose a few toys or games that they're more willing to share.

The early child education professionals at Penn Garden Day Care Center, Inc., help kids master essential concepts like sharing and turn-taking. Since 1997, they have been serving Penn Hills, Plum, Murrysville, and Monroeville, PA. They provide day care, preschool, and child enrichment services for kids ages six weeks to 12 years old. Call (412) 372-4144 to sign up or visit them online to explore their programs.