Attending a funeral is a solemn and emotional experience. Guests may be uncertain about the proper etiquette, particularly when it comes to choosing a place to sit during the service. While your presence is ultimately the most important expression of support for the bereaved family of the deceased, you want to ensure your seating choice conveys respect. Here are a few common questions people have about funeral seating arrangements. 

A Brief Guide to Funeral Seating

Where will the immediate family sit?

Those closest to the deceased will sit in the first few rows. Immediate family members and spouses will be in the first row, with extended family members or very close friends behind them. Often, family sits on the right side of the venue, and friends and co-workers sit on the left. However, these guidelines aren't always followed. 

How should I determine my seat? 

In large venues, it's polite to sit closer to the front to avoid gaps in the audience. Grieving family members often feel comforted being surrounded by supportive guests, and seeing rows of seats filled from the front will avoid the appearance of an empty or sparse room. 

Move to the middle of the row if you sit down first so that other guests can take their seats with minimal disruption. It will also be easier to hear those speaking if you sit close to the front.

What if there's limited space?

It's acceptable to stand at the back of the venue or against a wall if seating is limited. If you're already seated and become aware of a pregnant, elderly, or emotionally distraught guest that's standing, offer them your seat if possible.

When should I sit down?

If the funeral service includes a viewing prior to the ceremony, you should offer your condolences to the family and pay your respects to the deceased before taking your seat. If there is no viewing, take your seat as soon as you arrive. Remain seated quietly and have tissues or other items ready so that you can avoid searching for them during the service.

If you need help planning a funeral, Adzima Funeral Home in Stratford, CT, will help you through the process as respectfully and gracefully as possible. For more than 100 years, this family-run business has provided funeral planning services to families in need. Call (203) 375-2200 to speak with a compassionate team member about your needs, or visit them online to learn more about their services.