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After you and your spouse tell your children about your divorce plans, choose a time that's right to let others know. You might be nervous about discussing the situation with family, friends, and colleagues for fear of how they will react. The following advice can help ease you into this conversation. 

How Should You Tell People About a Divorce?

1. Work on a Joint Statement

Regardless of the state of the relationship, try to show a united front with your former spouse when divorce is mentioned. As a result, people won't feel obligated to choose sides. Agree with your spouse on a neutral statement to begin the conversation. For example, you could say, "We wish each other the best and want an amicable divorce." This statement shows that you both respect each other and explains your intentions in the future. 

2. Decide How Much to Divulge 

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People might have various questions after you make the initial statement. Decide beforehand what you want to share with specific people. It might help to group these individuals into categories. Share the most details with parents, siblings, and trustworthy friends. On the other hand, colleagues should know the less intimate details of your personal life. Have a noncommittal response prepared, such as "I'll need to weigh the options before I decide," to questions you don't feel comfortable answering. 

3. Create a Call-to-Action Closing

Let people know how your decision to divorce will affect them by highlighting how they are incorporated into the changes. In-laws, for instance, might want to know custody arrangements during the separation, in case they also help out with the kids. Your employer or colleague should know whether your work schedule needs to be changed to attend mediation and hearings. Let friends and family know if you need their emotional support or any other assistance throughout the process.

 

The lawyers at Knochel Knochel & Darus in Bullhead City, AZ, will help make the divorce process easier on you and your family. For over 25 years, Mohave County residents have relied on these attorneys to help them work out parenting plans, spousal maintenance, and other terms to adjust to life after the union. View each counselor's credentials online, and call (928) 444-1000 for a consultation. 

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