If you’ve been hurt by a partner, working past feelings of betrayal can be incredibly challenging, but deeply rewarding. If you want to reestablish trust but aren’t sure about where to start, there are many useful tools, such as couples therapy, that can put your relationship on the right track again. The following guide points out some actionable ways to start on the path to recovery. 

4 Trust-Building Relationship Tips 

1. Choose to Forgive 

Betrayal may feel insurmountable at first, but it’s possible to work through the hurt if you choose to forgive. It’s okay if this step in the process takes time or feels like a struggle. However, you need to make a conscious choice to let the past be the past and recommit to the choice often. 

2. Be Open About Your Feelings

It’s okay to talk candidly with your partner about your feelings. Try to avoid accusatory or combative language as you open up. Don’t be ashamed to show emotion and to admit that you’ve been hurt. Your significant other may also have feelings of guilt or pain they need to work through. If you need a safe space to explore your emotions together, consider going to couples therapy.

3. Give Positive Feedback 

If you’ve chosen together to work through your conflict, support one another with positive feedback. When your partner shows you love, respect, and care, recognize their kind actions and reciprocate. This will remind both you and them of what you are fighting for. You can learn powerful tips for giving positive feedback through couples therapy. 

4. Stay Optimistic 

It’s easy to think negatively after experiencing heartbreak, but optimism is powerful as you work toward a better future with your partner. You can increase your positivity as a couple through date nights, time with family, creating goals for the future, and reflecting on good experiences together. 

If trust has been strained in your relationship, that doesn’t mean it can’t be recovered. Sondra Sexton-Jones is a compassionate therapist with more than 25 years of experience. She helps couples and individuals in the Juneau, AK, area to work through betrayal, anxiety, depression, grief, and a variety of other mental health concerns. She also offers telehealth appointments. Learn more about her services online, or schedule an appointment at (907) 586-3313.